First impression: the word that has been mentioned by billions of people for trillions of times is now remembered once more. The only reason that psychologists stress it so often is the importance for people when meeting new guys. First impression will be regarded as the standard to judge what kind of person the new guy is, or what kinds of behaviours will he or she has in the future. Sometimes, this is true. However, in a lot of occasions, fist impression can be misleading.
I am a person who likes to judge people from the appearance. When I see a person looks friendly, no doubt, I will definitely think that he or she is friendly. Reversely, if I see a stranger who seems to be cold, I would believe this person is cold rather than warm no matter how warm he or she would behave in the future. I was taught that I should never judge person from the appearance, and I deeply know it. But I can’t control the first impression to be formed by the first look of a new guy I meet. And this happens so often in my life.
Take one example I encountered after arriving in America. During the International Student Orientation in UD, I was talking excitingly with new friends, especially new Chinese friends, I met. All of a sudden, a boy came and slapped very hard on the shoulder of one of the girls I just met, and without any expression on his face, he spoke to her with a very cold voice, “Why did you not call me?” I was stunned by him. Women are considered to be not as strong as men are, and we should respect them even more instead of being this rude. Especially, he was not her boy friend! After that day, whenever and wherever I saw him, I would rather not talk to him. However, later I found that we have an exactly the same course together. So as a classmate, I tried to get to him but amazingly, I found out that he’s friendly, warm-hearted and cool. This is another lesson I should remember this even once more: never judge a person from the first impression.
People judge me wrongly, too. I’m a happy person. This is true. When a new person sees me, I must be smiling and behaving as if I'm supposed to be always this happy. So they might think that I’m just a naiive happy person without many emotions. However, when they found out that sometimes I also feel sad or especially, when they had a bad mood and came to me with very tiny slight hope that I could possibly understand them and made them happy and I did do it as they wanted, they were surprised! And hence I’m no more a just-happy person to them.
First impression is misleading when meeting new people. However, it is still important to behave properly to give others a good first impression. What we should do is to continue to be nice to everybody we meet, and contribute to the society to be a really nice member.
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